We are who we listen to.
Question: Who should I listen to?
Don Grusin (paraphrased). "All the classical folks first... what you get from listening to them is a big goal to get to because they are so fluent with both hands. "
I would add the following. We want to hear beautiful sounds in our heads. What we hear inwardly is what we produce outwardly.
You've got to learn your instrument. Then, you practice, practice, practice. And then, when you finally get up there on the bandstand, forget all that and just wail.
I'm a professional pianist and music educator in West Toronto Ontario. I'm also a devoted percussionist and drum teacher.